Who can find a virtuous woman?

  Being a women and a mother in these days isn"t easy. There are lots of pressures of being a mother and wife, too many to count.  I have a lot of women who always comment on how i look everyday. I pride myself on how i look, and the effort i make for not only myself but my man. There is nothing wrong with taking time to make yourself look attractive.  There are so many things we can do to feel good "inside" like yoga, a day at the spa, volunteer work, or going to church.   I do my hair and make up everyday and i put something cute and casual on so i can feel good about myself, and so my man comes home to a beautiful woman. It feels un-natural to me to not have myself put together. I get that from my mother.  I remember watching her put her make up on everyday to look beautiful. she never left the house without it.

My girl friends always joke around and tell the story of the birth of my boys. When i was pregnant I would go to sleep with my makeup on and my hair done in case i went into labor in the middle of the night.  When i was in the hospital having contractions getting ready to have my baby i would pull out my mirror and touch up my make up or hair. While in soo much pain!! That's too funny now that i think about it! When Dom would be asleep beside me on the pull out bed the hospital provided i would wake up early, wash my face and put my make up on so i would look and feel beautiful when he woke up to see me and our new born. I did this throughout my pregnancy with both my boys. 

Its been proven that "when u look good u feel good" but I do know that no matter how beautiful a woman is on the outside she can be an ugly beast on the inside and sometimes there is no cure for that!

Anyway, why shouldn't we feel good about ourselves? Why shouldn't our men come home to a beautiful women. Well, i suppose you have to be at a certain stage in your relationship to even want to do that i suppose. If the "Honey moon stage" is gone and there are issues at hand then that's an other story. That's just not the case for me. A girl friend says to me the other day,  "He should love me anyway" or "He should love me just the way i am"....Oh! That makes me mad! How was it that u got him in the first place? U used to do ur makeup, where those cute outfits and try hard! That's what we do when we are trying to impress a guy but that shouldn't change at all. Why should we stop trying to impress our husbands...I promised myself that i would not change except for the better.

To each their own! This is me and how i want to live my life and I want to impress my man everyday. He deserves it! And he should try just as hard for me.

Proverbs31:10 says, "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies."

1 Corinthians 7:4, NKJV says, "The wife not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And like wise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does."

You can take that for what that means for you...

I don't ever want to be that person who looks back and says to myself, "What happened to me?" or "What happened to us?"

So.....If your engaged please talk about these things before hand and your expectations, need and wants. 

 Dont be afraid of communication and hearing what he wants and expects from you...

Make Love not War!