Responsibility

   Listen up ladies! We have to start taking responsibility for our children. I often have women complaining  to me about their kids, and asking me questions like "whats wrong with my kids", or " why are they being this way", "why aren't they listening or being receptive to me?  The problem doesnt begin with the child but with the parent.  You need to stop and ask yourself what did you do to cause or contribute to this behavior, how could you have approached it differenly, and what can you do to make it better? Children are going through so many change's in thier little bodies, and they are not pro's at knowing how to express themselves. For example:  My son got jealuse cuz i was holding my new born and i was kinda teiseing him witch wasnt a good idea and he bit me.    This will happen its just a matter of time. Children dont listen when someone is yelling at them  all your doing is instilling fear in that child. Children dont hear what you are saying all they hear is someone yelling at them. So yeah that will do the job if you want them to stop jumping on the sofa, but is it the right approach? Christiane Lavin at Parents.com says, " Yelling belittles kids and undermines the parent-child bond."http://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/discipline/tips/parents-yelling/ Edgucate yourself people!
 Its too bad that we dont leave the hospital after giving birth with an instruction manual. We leave in what i call  "The honymoon stage" for only a couple of days, and then come the sleepless nights,  your nipples that feel like there are two lobsters hanging from them 24/7,   you have to bath all of them, feed them, brush their teeth, or you get layed off, trying to look for work, stress on money and at the end of the day you take it all out on the ones that are in the front line of fire, your children. Its not the arrguments that destroy the relationships but rather how you handle them. Your anger always gets the better of you, and before you know it you yell or in the worst of cases hit someone. We all dont like to be told that we are at fault, It is in our human nature to get defensive. I guess thats what im hear for because i dont care if you dont like it! So, hear it is!!! The parents are always at fault. The children are never to blame. They dont know any better as children but as adults you do. Children are a reflection of thier parents and parents are a reflection of their children......