Say it loud, say it proud!

 How may of us hear people or have been asked, "how are the kids" or "how is the baby."  Come on! Do people forget the torture women have to go through? The sleepless nights, the breastfeding, the dramatic changes that the body had and still have to go through. There shouldnt be a day that passes without your mate asking,"how are you feeling" or "can i get you anything." I have a girl friend who is 5 months pregnant and i told both her doughter and her husband," If you get up for a cup of water ask your wife if she wants some." If you get up to get a snack then ask her if she wants one, and  if your hungry ask her if she is." I mean its really that simple! when men get sick or dont feel good then they want to be babied, and thats ok but women should get the same in return. I cant stand it when a man gets home from work and says he is tired when he gets to sleep at night, and gets to have lunch with the boys. Thats, nice! I wish i could leave my office and have my assistant take care of things while im gone.  I have this rule, if you dont take care of me then i wont take care of you. Boy does it work girls! He feels the pain the next morning with no breakfast, coffee, lunch or dinner.  With the hustle and bustle of the day sometimes men just need to be sto reminded or in my case told. ha,ha! Dont "beet around the bush" or hold it in,  let it out no matter how brutal. If your bored then say it, if he isnt giving you what you need then tell him.Oh! "but I shouldnt have to tell him" or sometimes women say,"thats just the way men are and you cant change them"   "Oh come on!"  First of all no one is trying to change anyone(well, at least im not) Second, then my man needs go in hidding. "Cuz i got it like that" And not always because he does it on his own but because i tell him what i want and the way i like it.
Anyways,  try to make a plan together like him taking the kids and giving you alone time once or twice a week, and it would be a good way for him to bond with the kids alone "without mommy there." Talk to friends or relatives and ask if once or twice a month you can leave the kinds to visit while you guys go watch a movie or have dinner, thats only two hours... Remember that you come first, your relationship second, and then the kids. Without mommy and daddy there is no family.  Like we always say im my home, "if mommy isnt happy no one is happy"