Ethnocentrism

I have grown up a christian all my life and i beleive in God, and even though i beleive there is only one God i consider my self to be culturally relitivistic.  There are two concepts: ethnocentrism and cultural relativism; Ethnocentrism is the view that one's culture's way of doing things is the right way. Cultural relativism is the attitude that other ways of doing things are different but equally valid, and try to understand the behavior in its cultrual context. The terms "emic" and "etic" refer to perspectives. Emic are the insiders' perspectives, natives' views of their own behavior. Etic perspective are those of outsiders. Theses are two different vantige points, and knowing both helps give a comlete picture.
.  Take the women in Africa for instance, they kill their newborns.  Now most people would take the ethnocentrism attitude that those people were sick and wrong but if they knew that these people were starving and chances are 100 percent that if a child is born to close to the first they will both die because the mother doesn't have enough milk to support them both, their attitudes might chance if they had a heart. Most people are ethnocenric and what i call just plain ignorant, and thats ok for some people  but if you are going to open your mouth do your research first people.   Most christian women i know keep pressuring me to get married because its a "Sin" to have children before marrige because this way is the "right way." Well, the women i know are either devorced or married to a man who emotionaly abuses them, and unsure of their own marrige, and  I cant say that anyone has or had a good or happy marrage. I have had to see a lot of women in my family go through a lot of heart ach in thier marrige, and it scares me and tought me a lot.
I understand, and respect  the cultrual context of it but if people were to listen to what i have to say and take a good hard look at theirselves then they might understand me. I honestly dont think anyone got married for the right reasons, and when i get married i want it to be. I dont need or want a man to complete me, or love me. I need to do those things for myself so that i can have a wonderful marrige. Yes! i will admit that i am afriad, and damn well i should be because marrige is a big word and commitment. I am going to take my time and i wish people would open thier minds and think outside of the box. People should strive to be more culturally relitivistic, and try to understand the situation and look at it from an etic perspective.  When i want edvice i will ask a respectful couple who have been married for a long time and have had a happy marrige like my fiance's brother and sister in law. Now they have the secret!